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Recieved: 2003/12/10 19:42
Subject: Re: [K-list] Empathy
From: Mystress Angelique Serpent
On 2003/12/10 19:42, Mystress Angelique Serpent posted thus to the K-list:
At 08:00 AM 10/12/03, Erik Edwards wrote:
>Hello Mystress,
> Working without feeling flooded by empathy sounds most interesting,
>have you anything written about your experience?
I think I did, a few weeks back.
When I was in high school, I would bow my head and ask my heart for
insights, when a friend came to me with a problem... and share what I
heard. I've always been highly sensitive, but my empathy in those days was
not as extreme as it became, later.
I read a book on seeing auras one day, (instead of paying attention, in
class) and looked up from the book to see the auras of everyone in the room.
I had other options, all along... but my empathy follows my attention
and I did not know how for it not to, or how to be sovereign in myself and
not engage it, so I went with it.
Focusing exclusively on my heart instead of the client, so as not to
engage empathy, and on psychic vision and not feelings, is a discipline I
am still mastering. A challenge to greater mindfulness.
I think, what you are really asking for, is in this post I sent to
someone on another list:
To: KUNDALINI AT_NOSPAM yahoogroups.com
From: "M.A.S." <pheonix AT_NOSPAM fire-serpent.org>
Date: Mon, 01 Dec 2003 17:48:17 -0800
Subject: Re: [KUNDALINI] Re: Privacy
At 11:39 AM 30/11/03, Jennifer Madison wrote:
>I sometimes feel like I see right through people and i
>get these intuitions that I don't know when to share
>or not I am tired of being confused by this.
Discernment takes time. The power chakra rules this issue. Notice your
"gut reaction" when you think of telling them, or not telling them.
Occasionally the insights are gifts to be offered, but most often they are
just for you. For your own growth and insight; remember that what you see
is yourself reflected.
Sometimes it is information to be filed away for another time. I have
gotten insights about people that were not to be revealed to them till the
time was right... sometimes, years later.
For example: a good friend asked me to do some healing on his wife, who
was dying of cancer. I was able to ease her pain a little, but could not
heal the cancer. I "read" that it had purpose... that somehow, she was
setting him free. Made no sense to me, at the time and it was clear that it
was not for sharing. They were a very devoted couple, married for 35 years
and loyal but in many ways incompatible.
Two years after she died he told me of he had decided to wind up his
affairs and then he would stop caring for himself, stop working out, smoke
and drink till his body broke down died. Slow suicide. I knew that the time
had come to reveal the insights I'd gotten when I'd last seen his wife. How
she died to set him free, because there were some things for him to do this
lifetime that he would not get done if matrimonial vows still held. He felt
the resonance of truth in my words, which was more important than the words
themselves. He knew he had to abandon his selfish disregard, and honour her
sacrifice by embracing life with passion, and living fully. Living for
them both. He did!
When your discernment tells you to share, empty your mind and focus on
the recipient. Your heart will provide the perfect words without your
needing to think at all, about what to say. Empty vessel, conduit for
Goddess to speak through.
You may notice later, that this state comes with a complete lack of
self consciousness, self awareness. You will not notice at the time,
because the lack of self awareness means you can't!
If you are feeling self conscious or awkward, unsure what to say, then
the desire to speak comes from ego, so remain silent.
>I am tired of this confusion that I have had about
>where boundaries of privacy are because I do not seem
>to have a filter. I feel people on so many levels
>that I overwhelm myself with this information and I
>need desperately to integrate this and find a way to
>feel "normal" in the midst of all this activity.
I had the same problem for many years. Gone, now. It is a kundalini
symptom, but also self created. Being self created means it is in your
power to change it. Free Will is Goddess law, Guardian angels protect
sovereignty, unless you are acting to disrespect your own and others.
You have asked, so here you go:
The Training Manual for Overwhelmed Empaths...
by Mystress Angelique Serpent.
The essence of the issue: Projections and boundaries.
1) Projections. http://kundalini-teacher.com/lessons/project.html
Your energy follows your attention. Kundalites radiate a Shakti-field
that pings on the karma of other people and stirs it to the surface. Karma
follows responsibility, and so the karma your energy stirs up in them,
comes to you because you are the one responsible for poking it. Karma=
emotional baggage, limiting beliefs, ego fragments. Mental and emotional
noise.
The projection can be anything: judging how you think someone else
needs to change, or as simple as an intention to radiate love and light to
all you meet... The shadow side of that "Road to hell of good intentions"
is that you are also projecting that they are needy and inferior, and do
not have enough love and light of their own and so need yours.
Therefore, you are not respecting their boundaries!
The balancing factors:
a) An attitude of "Namaste." They are Gods of their own lives, whether
they know it or not, and perfect.
b) Some affirmations:
"I resolve to use only my own energy, especially in a social situation."
(Not other folks emotional stuff, incoming. Substitute "work
situation", "shopping mall", etc. if need be.)
Rub your sternum and say "How good it feels, to have all of my energy."
(Pulls in your projections and feelers, and takes back energy you may
have unconsciously sent to another.)
"I re-set my four fields to their proper size and vibration."
(We have several energy fields, some sit close to the body and others
radiate as much as 3000 feet, but in a non-invasive way. Overwhelmed
empaths tend to try to pull in their fields, which results in a crowded,
cramped or claustrophobic feeling that drives you to want more solitude.)
c) Turn inward. Your energy follows your attention, so keep your
attention on your own heart and power chakras, as much as possible and not
on other people, judgments and external "reality." This will feed you and
help you stay balanced, and it also has an effect of modulating your shakti
field, so that it does not poke people so much. You will be at peace, and
radiate peace.
Like the lovely french pilot Antoine de Saint-Exupery said, "It is only
with the heart, that one can see clearly. What is essential is invisible to
the eyes." Physical eyes and mind see illusion, but the eye of the heart
sees only truth, and will guide you better. With practice, maintaining an
ongoing awareness of your heart and power chakras becomes as automatic as
watching your footsteps and knowing where your hands are.
2.) Weak boundaries and sense of self.
This is more long term, and harder.
Women, especially, are trained to put the needs of others before our
own, and be what our dependents, parents, etc. want us to be. Conditioned,
trained to be a "good grrl." Rewarded for being biddable, impressionable,
for having weak boundaries and chastised for being willful or stubborn. The
ego itself, is a "social mask" made of cultural expectations. Projections
that were let in, accepted and became part of self image.
If there was abuse, especially sexual but any kind of abuse in your
childhood, then you probably never grew proper boundaries or sense of self,
in the first place and K. is bringing that to your attention.
Underneath all the conditioning-karma, is the real you, not just the
spiritual Self but the unique persona, the soul purpose of incarnation. K
shifts much of the programming, but it is good to spend time consciously
getting to know yourself better. What it is you really want out of life,
what you enjoy, where your bliss is, and then following that.
a) Fill you with you, and there is no room for other people's stuff. "To
thine own self be true." "Serve Goddess within yourself, and have none
before."
It does not mean abandoning agreements and responsibilities. It means
filtering out what is really you and what is conditioning.
b) Pay attention to the thought-voices in your mind. The ones that say
"you" are probably old recordings on repeat, things someone said to you
that you let in. Especially the ones that start "you should..."
The ones that say "I" are more likely to come from you, depending on how
vocal your inner critic is. Follow your heart. The chakra opens to truth
and thoughts of your unique purpose, the power chakra tightens at
projections and boundary violations. Both together, are discernment: your
navigation system for the physical plane.
c ) Surrender everything, and grow a new self, from within. A sense of
your self, your desires and uniqueness that comes wholly from the inside,
from the soul purpose. Your truth of who you want to be, and not what
others want you to be for them.
3) Neediness.
If your self esteem is very dependent on getting approval, validation
and compliments, then you are not getting fed adequately, from within. You
are holding out a begging cup for love, and people will use it as a trash
can. That is just human nature, and the higher purpose is to persuade you
to let go of the addiction, stop depending on external love and validation.
a) Connect to source, inwardly, or by grounding into the sun and earth
chakras,
http://kundalini-teacher.com/meditations/grounding.html
doing tai chi, counting your blessings, or whatever activity fills
you. When your energy is up, you will be less needy for approval, less
likely to be drawn into arguments and other people's issues. When you know
Goddess loves you, and are filled with that, what other people think of you
will not matter so much.
Instead of a begging cup on the outside, you get the Holy Grail inside,
"My cup runneth over with love."
b) The thymus chakra is located at the bony bump on your chest, halfway
between the throat and the heart chakra. Imagine there is a mouth there,
and that the mouth is opening to drink deep of pure sparkly white light,
called the "water of life." It is infinite, freely available. Chug it down
like a frat boy at a kegger until you are completely filled.
You may notice at first that the light disappears when it comes in. It
is a measure of your thirst, like how very dry soil absorbs a lot of water
before it makes a puddle. Do it every day.
>Last I wrote I had written about the lights in my
>apartment and the vertigo that I had the other night,
>and to clarify I feel like I was energetically
>connected to the electricity I was really really hot
>and it felt like it was coming from the electricity in
>my house. Also yesterday I had the worst migraine I
>have had in years, It is all connected.
Kundalini mostly shows up, when it has work to do, karma food to eat
and transmute. It has to work harder if it is processing other folks stuff
as well as your own... and can get really uncomfortable if it is chastising
you for taking what is not yours.
It pushes the stuff out your crown chakra, like smoke out a chimney. K
headaches usually come from a closed crown chakra... blocked chimney. Open
it, let the stuff out and the headache will often fade. Just imagine the
top of your head is a flower, opening and the energy blowing away like pollen.
>Oh yea, and today is my birthday.
Me too. Happy birthday to us!
Blessings...
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