To: K-list
Recieved: 2002/07/16 06:56
Subject: Re: [K-list] -Projections + a bit about Healing
From: lionessbleu1
On 2002/07/16 06:56, lionessbleu1 posted thus to the K-list:
--- In Kundalini-GatewayATnospamy..., ktyka <ktykaATnospamy...> wrote:
Hi Katie,
It is of utmost importance that healing be consensual. What passes
for people being healers these days is people wanting to heal others
cause they are bothered about the conditions of others. In other
words they want to heal people because it makes them feel good to
heal others. It is difficult at times to watch other people suffer
and you might think that you know a better way. You might know a
better way but until someone asks for your help it is best to keep
our hands to ourselves.
There is a saying that says, "the helping hand strikes again." We
judge other people's processes and decide we know better rather than
see the perfection of what is happening. We really don't know what is
going on inside of a person until they begin to tell us.
As a registered nurse working with critically ill patients on a daily
basis I have to get consent for everything or I could be charged with
assault and battery no matter how noble my intent. If a person says
no to something that is even lifesaving they have the right to say no.
I can't give a person a bath or a backrub without their permission. I
have people refuse things all the time even when they know it makes
them suffer even more and could even kill them.
Part of my job as a nurse is being an educator. I can inform them of
the risks and benefits of refusal. I would never start out the
education of my patients with the sentence, "I feel really bad that
I see you suffering in this way. Let me share with you what is
involved and the consequences if you continue on in this manner..."
What I am saying is....You make me feel bad because <fill in the
blank> How selfish and unprofessional of me to point out how their
condition makes me feel bad... My motivation for helping them is to
make me feel better and I am putting a guilt trip on them to make
them get better. As I said, I would never approach a patient that
way and yet I see "friends" placing conditional and guilt laden
requests on "friends" all the time. I also see it with lay healers.
This is not only selfish and patronizing it is unethical because we
are acting in our own best interests and not the best interests of
the patient.
So what do you do in your situation? Love your friend more than it
hurts you to see them hurting themselves. Love yourself so deeply
that you shine and then maybe he will ask you why that is so for you.
Love yourself so much you no longer have the ego needs to intervene
in someone else's life and fix them.
When you know how and love yourself like that people will ask you, I
guarantee, what is it about you that is different. And then you will
know how to tell them because you are doing it...you are it...already.
Blessings,
Susan>
>
> Humm... just a question about healing, I have a friend that I think
could really benefit from meditation and healing. His seems to have
alot of negative energy that needs to be released, for the most part
from his past (things that keep churning in his mind) ... alot has to
do with his negative image of himself. He says things such he thinks
he is ugly or fat and none of these are true. I know that a person
needs to want to change and help themselves... does anyone have any
suggestions about how to approach this, I would really like to help,
his ego is just cutting him down and no one needs that. Any
suggestions would be great!
>
>
> Thanks Katie
>
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