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Recieved: 2001/09/16 05:25
Subject: [K-list] You are loved ...???
From: Christopher Wynter
On 2001/09/16 05:25, Christopher Wynter posted thus to the K-list:
Who is the one who is loved -
and by whom ..?
We could get into a long discussion on the nature of 'love'
and the subject of sending 'love'
and this could become quite heated.
Why is it that a subject such as 'love'
invokes such passion.
What is this 'love' term that is freely bandied around
and causes such controversy within the
spiritual 'seekers'
If I were to ask each to give their own personal
understanding of 'love', there would probably be as many
differing definitions as there are people on this list.
How is the term used... in the English Language
What is the 'love' that you would send ..
is it
the love you extend towards a Big Mac
the love you express towards your partner
the love you express towards your children
the love you feel towards your car
the love you express towards your dog
just to name a few.
When I work with my people on the subject of 'love'
and ask for their understanding of the word,
there is one common denominator...
As a child, as an infant, there were many people around
who used the word 'love'
Each of us unconsciously learned our own definition of the
word 'love'
firstly as the energy expressed by our parents towards us
secondly as the energy our parents expressed towards each other
to which were added various other examples as we grew up.
Now, if (just as an example), you learned as an abused child from
an abusive relationship ... what is the immediate unconscious
perception you have of the word 'love' ..
Is your learned definition of love based on the observation that
the only time your parents used the word 'love' was when they
were having sex ....
are these the thoughts behind the 'love' you would give to yourself ..
or send out to others?
When translating from other languages into English .. let's take Sanskrit
as an example, there are about 47 different words which loosely translate
into the English 'love'
and herein lies the confusion.
From a perusal of the original texts in the original language of writing,
the term used as 'love' within the context of 'being love' or of
'sending love'
'love' is more correctly defined as the eternal principle of beingness...
the essence that is shared between all sentient and
non sentient beings
"For God so loved the world"
Now .. using this definition of the word love ...
"loving yourself" falls into the context of the first commandment
and loving another or 'sending' love
falls into the context of the second commandment
(BTW .. the other 8 commandments were only written
because people could not understand the first 2)
It follows from this that "If I cannot or do not Love myself"
then I am not honouring or accepting
the Divine Principle that I am an expression of.
this puts me in the position of 'victim', lacking, dependant on others
causing me to seek love outside of self
and taking on an understanding of love that is totally
dependent on my learned 'survival' relationship with others.
If I have learned my definition of 'love' from an abusive childhood
then, from that definition, I cannot love myself ...
but this is what I would send to others.
If I have learned my definition of 'love' as an expression of
the divine life principle, then I can
accept that love myself, direct it to my body ..
and allow it to be shared with others
by recognising that the same 'divine' life principle
exists in all.
In conclusion ...
When the subject of 'sending' love is discussed ..
what is it you would send ...
What is it that you project
(albeit unconsciously in most cases)
on the person you deem that is needy of receiving your love ...
what is your unconscious definition of love ...
is it the eternal life principle
as the sharing between two blades of grass
with common roots
or in the case of humanity .. common genes in the DNA
which date back 300 million years ...
is it the memory of your childhood
the hunger for a Big Mac
the status of your impressive car
the companionship of your dog.
or an expression of your perception of yourself as a victim,
devoid of the eternal principle
(which you are projecting on the other person ...)
Maybe this will help people understand a little more of my understanding
when I say that in order to establish world peace and goodwill,
it is first necessary to establish that relationship with
that aspect of the divine principle within the individual ..
and this, once awakened, will flow outward - an act of sharing.
and I have deliberately stayed off the subject of 'love' as defined
and illustrated by religious organisations down through time
for their examples of how they show 'love'
opens a real can of worms.
== Christopher Wynter
christopherATnospamlifestreams.com.au
Ps .. before my partner could accept the words "I Love you"
from me, she had to overcome a picture of continual dispute
and unhappiness which was her example of the'love' that
was shared between her parents.
She had to learn to trust that there was more to what she had been
taught about love by parents .. and church.
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