To: K-list
Recieved: 2001/01/31 15:29
Subject: Re: [K-list] A Dilemma
From: Gcwein1111
On 2001/01/31 15:29, Gcwein1111 posted thus to the K-list:
This brings up an interesting topic: k and relationships with a
significant other.
First, JB, my feelings are similar to others who've
responded. lf you are unsure enough to ask the list about moving in with her,
you're probably not ready to do so, and when faced with such uncertainty, l
also think it's best to wait.
When you're not ready to take
an important step in a relationship l think this can be a call to look more
closely at what's going on, both within yourself and with the other person.
What feelings, doubts, reservations do you have that you're not
communicating? And, why not? One could go on with this, but it's important to
recognize that behind a reluctance to go forward in a relationship are
usually many issues that one is afraid to address for whatever reasons.
l'm reminded of how my last serious relationship --
with a really beautiful woman 14 yrs younger than myself -- ended 10 yrs ago
this month. The end was so painful that l plunged into spiritual practice and
precipitated my k awakening about 1-1/2 yrs later. l know that we both still
loved each other and had alot of unresolved feelings -- then because of k l
was never in a position to resolve them with her or even have a sexual
relationship with anyone again.
My guess is that the relationships of k experiencers probably vary as much as
k experiences themselves. l know that some k experiencers cannot be sexually
active -- l haven't been able to be that way for over 8 yrs now. Other k
experiencers are the opposite - sexually hyperactive. But either way, l
would think that most of us require a partner who is exceptionally
understanding, accomodating and supportive.
l often console
myself by thinking that altho l've missed the hell out of Robin to this day,
all these k complications would've made a relaionship near impossible anyway.
Other k experiencers, however, have said they couldn't have survived k
without the loving support of their spouse. So, as usual, l'm reluctant to
see any hard and fast rule that applies to everyone.
from Mt Kailash,
jerrysan rinpoche
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