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Recieved: 2001/01/28 18:36
Subject: Re: [K-list] Both P&P are symptoms of Dis-ease - Kimberly (Sexua
From: Kimberly Burlison
On 2001/01/28 18:36, Kimberly Burlison posted thus to the K-list:
>Kimberley ..
>
>I am referencing all of my remarks in the context of the client - therapist
>relationship .. from the perspective of working with the client ..
First of all I want to clarify that I don't disagree with your point of view. Having been through sexual abuse as a child it took me quite a few years to come around to that view. Some will not understand when I say this, but I wouldn't change what happened because I learned much about myself from the experience that has helped with other situations. I was just wondering your view on the role of the other involved party, since I have not been able to reconcile that part myself and have not come across someone that sees things this way in a while. Perhaps this is a little clearer?
>I do not condone Rape .. or sexual assault ..
>or any of the other things I have mentioned.
>Nor do I take into account here the acts of violence
>associated with war where there are other factors
> to take into consideration.
Neither do I.
>My point of reference is with the "victim" so-called of the incident ..
>and my work has mostly come in as a last resort after the client
>has done the usual rounds of the sexual assault specialists
> without finding a resolution
I never went the therapy route, mostly because I was fighting myself too much and was too busy doing that to want to talk at that time. Now I'm likely to talk about it like what I saw in the paper...
>I work deeply with the unconscious memories, looking at patterns
>of life leading up to the incident. It is usually as a result of this
>that the client turns to me and says .. "yes, I was putting out
>for this .. and I can see it now" ..
<snip>
>here again, in many cases, the child is a contributor in observing
>the "terms of love" relationship between parents .. and, in seeking
>the same fulfillment presents him/her self to the perpetrator,
>
>In this case, again once the understanding of the awakened nature
>of the sexuality of the child is understood .. and the fact that in many
>cases there is tribal tradition in the ancestry .. the issue finds
>resolution.
It took me 15 years to come to that for myself. :)
>The other aspect of resolution comes with understanding .. that there
>can be no blame. The client, in realising he/she is that way because of
>unresolved prior trauma experience can not only look at the perpetrator
>from a different perspective ..
> but can also invoke the energy of "forgiveness"
> based on "father forgive them for they know not what they do"
Agreed...this was very powerful for me even though I have never spoken with the involved parties about the incident. Most cannot understand the concept of forgiveness for "people like that"...
>Kimberley .. I hope this helps ...
I never disagreed, merely asked for your view from a different angle...I suppose I wasn't clear. Perhaps this will be more understood... :)
Kimberly<br clear=all><hr><a href=""></a><br></p>
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