To: K-list
Recieved: 2000/07/04 22:42
Subject: Re: [K-list] Moving Out
From: Kathy Bates
On 2000/07/04 22:42, Kathy Bates posted thus to the K-list:
new searcher wrote:
>
> >I learn to speak my mind, not because of Kundalini rising, but because I
> >am human and I have not learned to speak my mind clearly until recently.
> >If I don't speak my mind because every time I speak someone feels hurt,
> >is that good? I know what I am saying, and I also know that it is open
> >to interpretation by everyone, according to everyone's individual agenda.
> >
> >Blessings,
> >
> >Kath
>
> Out of curiosity, how do you know it is not because of K? thx, n_s
I don't know, it may be or it may not be a result of Kundalini activity.
What I was trying to say was that Kundalini activity, if that is what I
have experienced, isn't necessarily the reason for my speaking my
mind...nor do I use it as an excuse.
If Kundalini has helped make it easier for me to express myself, that is wonderful.
> all i know is that claiming kundalini appears to give license to do or say
> anything you want without concern for the effect on others or any need for
> apology.
Referring to this sentence in your post.
For further clarification...I do not "do or say anything I want without
concern for the effect on others or any need for apology"...I simply do
not apologize when I know in my heart there is no harm intended. I know
my own motives, I know what I mean, although I do not always express it
well. As a result, I don't apologize when people take me in a different
way from what I mean, even when they have been upset by what they read.
Rather, I attempt to explain, to clarify. Like anyone, I sometimes get
the wrong end of the stick, apply meanings that are not intended...I'm
beginning to understand more and more that this is the nature of
communication, particularly in a medium where you cannot watch a
person's facial expressions nor see their body language as they "speak"...
When I say something intentionally mean or hurtful, I apologize. This
happens, but not in the recent series of posts.
This is refreshingly different for me from the way I used to be, which
was to apologize for the way people took things, regardless of how I
meant them. Now I might say "oh, it's too bad that you got upset about
that comment, that's not the way I meant it at all" but not "oh, I'm
sorry you took that the wrong way"
That's what I meant.
Hope that's clearer.
Blessings,
Kath
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