1998/03/04  03:59  
 kundalini-l-d Digest V98 #168 
  
kundalini-l-d Digest				Volume 98 : Issue 168
 
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  brown ceramic heart                   [ anandajyoti <anandajyotiATnospamgeocities. ] 
  brown ceramic heart                   [ anandajyoti <anandajyotiATnospamgeocities. ] 
Date: Wed, 04 Mar 1998 01:14:57 -0800 
From: anandajyoti <anandajyotiATnospamgeocities.com> 
To: "'kundalini-lATnospamexecpc.com'" <kundalini-lATnospamexecpc.com> 
Subject: brown ceramic heart 
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Subject: 
      Re: brown ceramic heart 
 Resent-Date: 
      Tue, 3 Mar 1998 09:45:35 -0600 
 Resent-From: 
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 Date: 
      Tue, 3 Mar 1998 10:46:42 -0500 
 From: 
      tgxxxATnospamjuno.com (tg langston) 
   To: 
      kundalini-lATnospamexecpc.com 
  References: 
      1 , 2
 
 
tgxxx wrote: 
As someone who was on the other side of a broken relationship where our 
communications WERE based on fantasy and not truth, I have to speak up. 
It is very difficult to distinguish between the two when you are in the 
middle of it all.  Or at least it was for me.
 
Anandajyoti> 
Yes, you are right in saying so from your perspective. Nothing wrong 
there. But in my case I acted from truth. That is why , it was not clear 
to me at the time, that the other side had the fantasy going on. And it 
could also be true as you say that it is difficult to distinguish 
between truth and fantasy.
 
tgxxx>If it is truly a fantasy, then suddenly upon meeting, you would be 
a 
stranger.
 
Anandajyoti> I did not fantasize, but I perceived the other person 
communicating at the time,when we met  as though I was a stranger. This 
was quite  hard for me to understand right then and there.
 
AJ< I sometimes ponder : was >it>just a smoke screen to end the 
relationship.
 
tgxxx> In my case, no it wasn't.
 
Anandajyoti>Actually, this idea of the smoke screen did not dawn on my 
mind till after a month or so. During our short meeting , I did not 
perceive  anything of the kind.
 
tgxxx> I totally agree.  Again, you may be seeing hidden agendas, but as 
I see 
it from the other person's point of view, there were no hidden agendas.
 
Anandajyoti> It could darn well be right as you say, as this idea of 
'hidden agenda also surfaced about a month  or so later.
 
tgxxx>I am truly sorry you had to go thru pain and hurt with this 
relationship, 
and I am glad you finally transcended it.
 
Anandajyoti> Thank you for your compassion, as I send my love to the 
other person daily, even now, though we do not communicate any more.
 
tgxxx>I have a difficult time understanding why you think they need to 
be 
forgiven.  The person was honest with you.  She did the best she could 
for what she knew at the time.  She didn't do anything wrong.  She 
merely 
misinterpreted truth for fantasy.
 
Anandajyoti> Yes, for a few weeks, I did think I was wronged, hence the 
forgiving part. 
Now I  also see the other persons view , from your statement above. 
Thanks again for showing me the light.
 
AJ> such experiences also >teach>us a lot what to look for in similar 
situations, if they ever arise. 
tgxx>I agree totally here.
 
Anandajyoti> Thanks for showing the light again.
 
tgxxx>Was it traumatizing because of your expectations?
 
Anandajyoti> As I look back over it again, it could well be some 
expectations on my part.
 
tgxxx>Because of promises made that were not kept?
 
Anandajyoti> At the time neither made any promises, except I made a 
commitment from my side. There was no commitment from the other side . 
SO I cannot  in truth say there were any broken promises.
 
tgxxx > Because of living in the future and not in the moment?  I 
realize that we are only human and it is very difficult not to have 
expectations and to not believe promises made that are based on future 
happenings.  But that is no reason to blame your expectations and living 
in the future on the other person and thinking they are the one 
that needs forgiven.  There is nothing to forgive on either party.  Both
 
of you did the best you could do at the time for what you knew.
 
Anandajyoti> Even thinking back over it now , I cannot say that I was 
living in the future, but I did have some expectations, to truthfully 
state. I am not blaming the other person at all for any of it,. It was 
my own doing, due to my expectation, I guess, as I understand it with 
more clarity, now.
 
tgxxx>The entrapment is your own making.  And yes it is gone in the 
past.
 
Anandajyoti> The "entrapment" part which I wrote about was for Val on 
her comment which I quote below: 
"Val> Now I don't know if it is that I am "trapped" here alone , or just 
That am healing from being totally traumatized & injured painfully for 
life." 
In my situation, there was no entrapment of any sort.
 
tgxxx>This is true.  Because of my experience being the one who gave 
pain, I 
was given another experience recently to see the other side.  I observed
 
the pain I received and saw it was feelings of rejection.   I looked at 
these feelings, realizing they were based on my own expectations.  Love 
is blind, so they say.  But seeing it from a clearer perspective, I see 
there are many things we choose not to listen to while 'being in love'. 
We choose not to listen to ourSelf.  That is not the other person's 
problem.  It is my own lesson to learn.  When I gave pain to another, I 
did not do it willingly or cunningly to hurt them.  Again, I didn't 
listen to mySelf.  I chose to listen to the other person and believe 
them.  This was true in both cases.   And this is not to say to go into 
relationships being less trustful, but to go into relationships more 
trustful -- the only difference would be to not only trust the other 
person, but to trust yourSelf first and formost.
 
Anandajyoti> 
I felt rejected too, various times even after the meeting, whenever I 
tried not to burn bridges and trying to keep communication open for 
better understanding. But I faced solid walls during those instances. It 
could be that other person did not want to keep any communication lines 
open and chose to burn the bridges. That is her choice.But that is well 
nigh true, her choice and her prerogative., I should not have anything 
against that, which I understood after a month and a half. This part of 
not understanding  and still hoping on my part , as I think it over, was 
my mistake or fault , whatever way you may put it. But  you know, in my 
heart I still love her. May be that is my problem, which I have to work 
on.
 
tgxxx>Did the relationship teach you to be more loving, more trustful, 
more 
softer?  Or did it teach you to be less loving, less trustful, harder? 
If the latter is true, then we must search deeper and deeper within 
ourSelves to find our Spirit that is pure love and acceptance.  Did you 
not love deeply and with complete love and faith in this relationship? 
This is a wonderful thing to realize that we have this in us to be able 
to love as deeply and faithfully as we did.  This is a good thing.  Not 
something to suppress with the next person that comes along.
 
Anandajyoti> Are you kidding ? Even though this relationship had its 
rough edges and very short lived, I still do loveher  in truth.. This 
relationship has taught me a lot, frankly sharing. 
My LOVE, TRUST, and SOFTNESS is increasing ever since, in spite of the 
pain I went through. As deep was my pain, in the situation, Deeper has 
my sense of Love , Trust and Softness become, during the last two 
months. If I were given a choice and an opportunity, I would still want 
to have a relationship with her, as we had a lot of things in common 
too., and very good open communications. Well, in my case I do not know 
if there would ever be another person or not, for that would be thinking 
of the future again, and expectations, won't it?
 
tgxxx>And if we make a mistake again, it is so good to know that we have 
a 
place within us to turn to, to allow peace and acceptance to come to us 
once again, knowing that everything is in perfect and divine order, and 
allowing us to see that we nor they did anything wrong.  We are here to 
find that place, that Spirit who we truly are.  To listen to Its wisdom.
 
We are not here to learn lessons to make us harder and more bitter and 
watchful for the next experience,  as much as we are here to chip away 
our external to find our  our Voice that is always talking to us, and to
 
know that we have a place internally to rest upon in complete peace and 
acceptance of all that is.
 
Anandajyoti> I will definitely cherish these great words of wisdom of 
yours. How is it that you have read my own line  of thoughts and 
experience. Sadly , though, this wisdom was blocked for a while, while 
in that relationship. That was my blunder. Could be I was blind at the 
time.
 
tgxxx> The 10 days can be turned into a moment - no need to wait.  Peace 
is 
available to anyone each and every moment if you are willing to look at 
the situation differently.  When I am out of peace, it is my 
responsibility to see it differently.  I can choose to prolong it and 
grieve accordingly or choose peace.  "I can see peace instead of this" 
is 
a powerful thing to say and shows your own willingness.  Again, I have 
to 
say how wonderful it is to know there is a place within me that I now 
have a choice to see peace instead of turmoil.  I spent a whole lifetime
 
not knowing this until the last few years.
 
Anandajyoti> It is true what you say but .... 10 days..... . The reason 
I said this is when we are in the spirit realm, all you said is very 
true, but when we are on the earth, we do live in space-time dimension. 
I know that in the spirit realm the time dimension does not exist, it is 
all simultaneous, the past, the present and  the future, what you say 
about "NOW" 
Thanks again for your illuminating insights.
 
tgxxx> You say the other party was based on fantasy.  What about your 
own 
fantasies you had?  I'm not trying to make light of what you believe was
 
real to you but not to her because you were the one traumatized.  Just 
because you were the one with pain doesn't mean your feelings were real 
and hers were not.  If the love was based on how the other person should
 
act and be and not in full and total acceptance of what is, this isn't 
love.  It feels like love and the ego makes us believe it is love, but 
it 
isn't.
 
Anandajyoti> The fantasy part of the other person was not told to me 
prior or during the relationship,but after the break up. True , I did 
have expectations as I have already stated earlier, but I did not have 
any fantasy. Truthful, loving responses , yes.. I don't and did not 
judge at all, her feelings, I accepted all of her as she was/is, and I 
never told her that her feelings were unreal. 
I can only speak for myself and say that I had accepted her as she was, 
even after meeting her, but I felt after a day , that I was abjectly 
rejected, although it was not said by her in words. So, from my side it 
was truthfully LOVEand ACCEPTANCE  of it all, maybe not of thesituation 
at the time. But after a day, I could not speak it out, could be, I was 
afraid of a frontal rejection. So, yes  a certain fear element came to 
me, as I now think  it over again. I can still say, from my side, that 
my LOVE was not based on ego.
 
tgxxx> Was what you heard based on promises of the future?  If it was, 
then it 
couldn't be real.  We have human feelings so of course our responses to 
what is said to us will be recognized.  That doesn't make them true.  So
 
how do we distinguish between the real and unreal?  Hell if I know.  I 
can ask myself questions such as, am I responding to the now or feelings
 
based on future promises?  If I felt feelings of love in the now, then 
who is to say that is not real?  Love is real.  Are there any 
expectations, any feelings of what the future holds because of this love
 
I am feeling, attached to the love?  If so, that is not real.  Have I 
placed a commitment to this relationship with the understanding that 
commitment is that I will have you forever, and not the commitment to 
the 
moment?
 
Anandajyoti> No, no promises were made to me based on the future. It 
might well have been my expectations for the future. This moment thing 
which you talk about , I guess , I still need to work on. My 
understanding in the space -time dimension as I mentioned earlier, what 
you speak of the moment, is for the spirit world, where the past , the 
present and the future are all present  simultaneously. Based on this 
philosophical aspect what you say is true, but not while I am still in 
the body in a physical realm. I may program myself to think in that way, 
but if I go to work and say, everything is in the moment , even in the 
physical, I would  be shown the door towards a loony asylum.
 
tgxxx>To empathize doesn't mean to join in suffering.  That is the ego's
 
definition of empathy.  To say that truly spiritual people become very 
sensitive to the pain of others is unclear to me and seems to make a 
space that somehow those that are not so sensitive to the pain of others
 
and themselves makes them less spiritual.  Is this what you are saying? 
I would think, and of course from my own unlimited limited thinking, 
that 
the finer you become, the more accepting you would be of yourSelf, 
others 
and the situations at hand.  And this acceptance would bring about 
peace, 
instead of suffering. 
Suffering is a choice based on fear.  When faced with any form of fear, 
we should ask for help in healing any separation we may feel between 
ourselves and God, or ourselves and others.  We need to remember that 
fear is a choice, not something that is thrust upon us.  Fear is merely 
the absence of love and a denial of who we are, a denial that love is 
all 
around us and acting as if we are alone.
 
Anandajyoti> The definition you state about empathy is true per the 
dictionary. 
I consider empathy to be the ability to feel the pain and suffering of 
others, not through the ego but through the heart. I consider empathy to 
be right brain function rather than the left brain linear thinking 
approach. 
Regarding the "truly spiritual people" etc. , my mistake----- a comma 
after the truly, would have made it clearer. Sorry for that, if I 
mislead anyone. 
Yes , the finer one becomes, the more accepting  he/she  would be for 
oneself and others and situations..  On the same basis,  the pain and 
suffering and also the pleasures and bliss are more intensely felt  by 
those who have that sensitiveness. 
Yes, acceptance also brings peace as you say, but it takes time, it does 
not follow any mathematical linear formula. It just does not happen 
instantaneously in the NOW. 
"Suffering is a choice based on fear", I could not agree with this 
statement. Philosophically yes, but not in the reality of the three 
dimensions. When a mother/.father  looses her/his child through death, 
would you say that her suffering is her choice through fear, I don't 
think so. 
This is what I see as reality in the NOW. Even fear is not a choice, 
rather, what we can do about it,  is the choice. All types of Fear are 
not absence of LOVE as you put it, philosophically, nor is it a denial 
in all cases and situations.
 
Well, I appreciate the time you had taken to respond to my post. Most of 
your points I do agree, except for a few, which are purely philosophical 
and high up in the air and lacks  connections to the ground.. That's 
just my perspective, but you are entitled to your opinion, I have 
nothing against that. I love to stay on the ground as well as touch the 
skies, as long as I am in the body. 
Concluding I must agree, that I got a lot of illuminating insights from 
you for which I thank you immensely from my heart. A good piece of 
thought work.
 
IN LOVE AND LIGHT 
Anandajyoti
 
http://www.geocities.com/Athens/Forum/6782 
Date: Wed, 04 Mar 1998 01:18:55 -0800 
From: anandajyoti <anandajyotiATnospamgeocities.com> 
To: "'kundalini-lATnospamexecpc.com'" <kundalini-lATnospamexecpc.com> 
CC: tg langston <tgxxxATnospamjuno.com> 
Subject: brown ceramic heart 
Message-ID: <34FD1C6F.B09E6BC8ATnospamgeocities.com> 
 
Subject: 
      Re: brown ceramic heart 
 Resent-Date: 
      Tue, 3 Mar 1998 09:45:35 -0600 
 Resent-From: 
      kundalini-lATnospamlists.execpc.com 
 Date: 
      Tue, 3 Mar 1998 10:46:42 -0500 
 From: 
      tgxxxATnospamjuno.com (tg langston) 
   To: 
      kundalini-lATnospamexecpc.com 
  References: 
      1 , 2
 
 
tgxxx wrote: 
As someone who was on the other side of a broken relationship where our 
communications WERE based on fantasy and not truth, I have to speak up. 
It is very difficult to distinguish between the two when you are in the 
middle of it all.  Or at least it was for me.
 
Anandajyoti> 
Yes, you are right in saying so from your perspective. Nothing wrong 
there. But in my case I acted from truth. That is why , it was not clear 
to me at the time, that the other side had the fantasy going on. And it 
could also be true as you say that it is difficult to distinguish 
between truth and fantasy.
 
tgxxx>If it is truly a fantasy, then suddenly upon meeting, you would be 
a 
stranger.
 
Anandajyoti> I did not fantasize, but I perceived the other person 
communicating at the time,when we met  as though I was a stranger. This 
was quite  hard for me to understand right then and there.
 
AJ< I sometimes ponder : was >it>just a smoke screen to end the 
relationship.
 
tgxxx> In my case, no it wasn't.
 
Anandajyoti>Actually, this idea of the smoke screen did not dawn on my 
mind till after a month or so. During our short meeting , I did not 
perceive  anything of the kind.
 
tgxxx> I totally agree.  Again, you may be seeing hidden agendas, but as 
I see 
it from the other person's point of view, there were no hidden agendas.
 
Anandajyoti> It could darn well be right as you say, as this idea of 
'hidden agenda also surfaced about a month  or so later.
 
tgxxx>I am truly sorry you had to go thru pain and hurt with this 
relationship, 
and I am glad you finally transcended it.
 
Anandajyoti> Thank you for your compassion, as I send my love to the 
other person daily, even now, though we do not communicate any more.
 
tgxxx>I have a difficult time understanding why you think they need to 
be 
forgiven.  The person was honest with you.  She did the best she could 
for what she knew at the time.  She didn't do anything wrong.  She 
merely 
misinterpreted truth for fantasy.
 
Anandajyoti> Yes, for a few weeks, I did think I was wronged, hence the 
forgiving part. 
Now I  also see the other persons view , from your statement above. 
Thanks again for showing me the light.
 
AJ> such experiences also >teach>us a lot what to look for in similar 
situations, if they ever arise. 
tgxx>I agree totally here.
 
Anandajyoti> Thanks for showing the light again.
 
tgxxx>Was it traumatizing because of your expectations?
 
Anandajyoti> As I look back over it again, it could well be some 
expectations on my part.
 
tgxxx>Because of promises made that were not kept?
 
Anandajyoti> At the time neither made any promises, except I made a 
commitment from my side. There was no commitment from the other side . 
SO I cannot  in truth say there were any broken promises.
 
tgxxx > Because of living in the future and not in the moment?  I 
realize that we are only human and it is very difficult not to have 
expectations and to not believe promises made that are based on future 
happenings.  But that is no reason to blame your expectations and living 
in the future on the other person and thinking they are the one 
that needs forgiven.  There is nothing to forgive on either party.  Both
 
of you did the best you could do at the time for what you knew.
 
Anandajyoti> Even thinking back over it now , I cannot say that I was 
living in the future, but I did have some expectations, to truthfully 
state. I am not blaming the other person at all for any of it,. It was 
my own doing, due to my expectation, I guess, as I understand it with 
more clarity, now.
 
tgxxx>The entrapment is your own making.  And yes it is gone in the 
past.
 
Anandajyoti> The "entrapment" part which I wrote about was for Val on 
her comment which I quote below: 
"Val> Now I don't know if it is that I am "trapped" here alone , or just 
That am healing from being totally traumatized & injured painfully for 
life." 
In my situation, there was no entrapment of any sort.
 
tgxxx>This is true.  Because of my experience being the one who gave 
pain, I 
was given another experience recently to see the other side.  I observed
 
the pain I received and saw it was feelings of rejection.   I looked at 
these feelings, realizing they were based on my own expectations.  Love 
is blind, so they say.  But seeing it from a clearer perspective, I see 
there are many things we choose not to listen to while 'being in love'. 
We choose not to listen to ourSelf.  That is not the other person's 
problem.  It is my own lesson to learn.  When I gave pain to another, I 
did not do it willingly or cunningly to hurt them.  Again, I didn't 
listen to mySelf.  I chose to listen to the other person and believe 
them.  This was true in both cases.   And this is not to say to go into 
relationships being less trustful, but to go into relationships more 
trustful -- the only difference would be to not only trust the other 
person, but to trust yourSelf first and formost.
 
Anandajyoti> 
I felt rejected too, various times even after the meeting, whenever I 
tried not to burn bridges and trying to keep communication open for 
better understanding. But I faced solid walls during those instances. It 
could be that other person did not want to keep any communication lines 
open and chose to burn the bridges. That is her choice.But that is well 
nigh true, her choice and her prerogative., I should not have anything 
against that, which I understood after a month and a half. This part of 
not understanding  and still hoping on my part , as I think it over, was 
my mistake or fault , whatever way you may put it. But  you know, in my 
heart I still love her. May be that is my problem, which I have to work 
on.
 
tgxxx>Did the relationship teach you to be more loving, more trustful, 
more 
softer?  Or did it teach you to be less loving, less trustful, harder? 
If the latter is true, then we must search deeper and deeper within 
ourSelves to find our Spirit that is pure love and acceptance.  Did you 
not love deeply and with complete love and faith in this relationship? 
This is a wonderful thing to realize that we have this in us to be able 
to love as deeply and faithfully as we did.  This is a good thing.  Not 
something to suppress with the next person that comes along.
 
Anandajyoti> Are you kidding ? Even though this relationship had its 
rough edges and very short lived, I still do loveher  in truth.. This 
relationship has taught me a lot, frankly sharing. 
My LOVE, TRUST, and SOFTNESS is increasing ever since, in spite of the 
pain I went through. As deep was my pain, in the situation, Deeper has 
my sense of Love , Trust and Softness become, during the last two 
months. If I were given a choice and an opportunity, I would still want 
to have a relationship with her, as we had a lot of things in common 
too., and very good open communications. Well, in my case I do not know 
if there would ever be another person or not, for that would be thinking 
of the future again, and expectations, won't it?
 
tgxxx>And if we make a mistake again, it is so good to know that we have 
a 
place within us to turn to, to allow peace and acceptance to come to us 
once again, knowing that everything is in perfect and divine order, and 
allowing us to see that we nor they did anything wrong.  We are here to 
find that place, that Spirit who we truly are.  To listen to Its wisdom.
 
We are not here to learn lessons to make us harder and more bitter and 
watchful for the next experience,  as much as we are here to chip away 
our external to find our  our Voice that is always talking to us, and to
 
know that we have a place internally to rest upon in complete peace and 
acceptance of all that is.
 
Anandajyoti> I will definitely cherish these great words of wisdom of 
yours. How is it that you have read my own line  of thoughts and 
experience. Sadly , though, this wisdom was blocked for a while, while 
in that relationship. That was my blunder. Could be I was blind at the 
time.
 
tgxxx> The 10 days can be turned into a moment - no need to wait.  Peace 
is 
available to anyone each and every moment if you are willing to look at 
the situation differently.  When I am out of peace, it is my 
responsibility to see it differently.  I can choose to prolong it and 
grieve accordingly or choose peace.  "I can see peace instead of this" 
is 
a powerful thing to say and shows your own willingness.  Again, I have 
to 
say how wonderful it is to know there is a place within me that I now 
have a choice to see peace instead of turmoil.  I spent a whole lifetime
 
not knowing this until the last few years.
 
Anandajyoti> It is true what you say but .... 10 days..... . The reason 
I said this is when we are in the spirit realm, all you said is very 
true, but when we are on the earth, we do live in space-time dimension. 
I know that in the spirit realm the time dimension does not exist, it is 
all simultaneous, the past, the present and  the future, what you say 
about "NOW" 
Thanks again for your illuminating insights.
 
tgxxx> You say the other party was based on fantasy.  What about your 
own 
fantasies you had?  I'm not trying to make light of what you believe was
 
real to you but not to her because you were the one traumatized.  Just 
because you were the one with pain doesn't mean your feelings were real 
and hers were not.  If the love was based on how the other person should
 
act and be and not in full and total acceptance of what is, this isn't 
love.  It feels like love and the ego makes us believe it is love, but 
it 
isn't.
 
Anandajyoti> The fantasy part of the other person was not told to me 
prior or during the relationship,but after the break up. True , I did 
have expectations as I have already stated earlier, but I did not have 
any fantasy. Truthful, loving responses , yes.. I don't and did not 
judge at all, her feelings, I accepted all of her as she was/is, and I 
never told her that her feelings were unreal. 
I can only speak for myself and say that I had accepted her as she was, 
even after meeting her, but I felt after a day , that I was abjectly 
rejected, although it was not said by her in words. So, from my side it 
was truthfully LOVEand ACCEPTANCE  of it all, maybe not of thesituation 
at the time. But after a day, I could not speak it out, could be, I was 
afraid of a frontal rejection. So, yes  a certain fear element came to 
me, as I now think  it over again. I can still say, from my side, that 
my LOVE was not based on ego.
 
tgxxx> Was what you heard based on promises of the future?  If it was, 
then it 
couldn't be real.  We have human feelings so of course our responses to 
what is said to us will be recognized.  That doesn't make them true.  So
 
how do we distinguish between the real and unreal?  Hell if I know.  I 
can ask myself questions such as, am I responding to the now or feelings
 
based on future promises?  If I felt feelings of love in the now, then 
who is to say that is not real?  Love is real.  Are there any 
expectations, any feelings of what the future holds because of this love
 
I am feeling, attached to the love?  If so, that is not real.  Have I 
placed a commitment to this relationship with the understanding that 
commitment is that I will have you forever, and not the commitment to 
the 
moment?
 
Anandajyoti> No, no promises were made to me based on the future. It 
might well have been my expectations for the future. This moment thing 
which you talk about , I guess , I still need to work on. My 
understanding in the space -time dimension as I mentioned earlier, what 
you speak of the moment, is for the spirit world, where the past , the 
present and the future are all present  simultaneously. Based on this 
philosophical aspect what you say is true, but not while I am still in 
the body in a physical realm. I may program myself to think in that way, 
but if I go to work and say, everything is in the moment , even in the 
physical, I would  be shown the door towards a loony asylum.
 
tgxxx>To empathize doesn't mean to join in suffering.  That is the ego's
 
definition of empathy.  To say that truly spiritual people become very 
sensitive to the pain of others is unclear to me and seems to make a 
space that somehow those that are not so sensitive to the pain of others
 
and themselves makes them less spiritual.  Is this what you are saying? 
I would think, and of course from my own unlimited limited thinking, 
that 
the finer you become, the more accepting you would be of yourSelf, 
others 
and the situations at hand.  And this acceptance would bring about 
peace, 
instead of suffering. 
Suffering is a choice based on fear.  When faced with any form of fear, 
we should ask for help in healing any separation we may feel between 
ourselves and God, or ourselves and others.  We need to remember that 
fear is a choice, not something that is thrust upon us.  Fear is merely 
the absence of love and a denial of who we are, a denial that love is 
all 
around us and acting as if we are alone.
 
Anandajyoti> The definition you state about empathy is true per the 
dictionary. 
I consider empathy to be the ability to feel the pain and suffering of 
others, not through the ego but through the heart. I consider empathy to 
be right brain function rather than the left brain linear thinking 
approach. 
Regarding the "truly spiritual people" etc. , my mistake----- a comma 
after the truly, would have made it clearer. Sorry for that, if I 
mislead anyone. 
Yes , the finer one becomes, the more accepting  he/she  would be for 
oneself and others and situations..  On the same basis,  the pain and 
suffering and also the pleasures and bliss are more intensely felt  by 
those who have that sensitiveness. 
Yes, acceptance also brings peace as you say, but it takes time, it does 
not follow any mathematical linear formula. It just does not happen 
instantaneously in the NOW. 
"Suffering is a choice based on fear", I could not agree with this 
statement. Philosophically yes, but not in the reality of the three 
dimensions. When a mother/.father  looses her/his child through death, 
would you say that her suffering is her choice through fear, I don't 
think so. 
This is what I see as reality in the NOW. Even fear is not a choice, 
rather, what we can do about it,  is the choice. All types of Fear are 
not absence of LOVE as you put it, philosophically, nor is it a denial 
in all cases and situations.
 
Well, I appreciate the time you had taken to respond to my post. Most of 
your points I do agree, except for a few, which are purely philosophical 
and high up in the air and lacks  connections to the ground.. That's 
just my perspective, but you are entitled to your opinion, I have 
nothing against that. I love to stay on the ground as well as touch the 
skies, as long as I am in the body. 
Concluding I must agree, that I got a lot of illuminating insights from 
you for which I thank you immensely from my heart. A good piece of 
thought work.
 
IN LOVE AND LIGHT 
Anandajyoti
 
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