Partnering and Kundalini

Date: Wed, 19 Jun 1996 15:39:10 -0700
From: jean

The subject of partnering under the influence of Kundalini has been on my
mind lately and I thought I might bring the subject to the group.
Especially since Carlo is on.

It seems many marriages split as one spouse rockets through personal work
and leaves the other spouse dazed and confused, wondering who or what this
uninvited force of change is.  (It is very hopeful that Carlo is so
forthcoming in his desire to understand this phenomenon and willing to
engage this group.)

My own husband had fears that I was mentally unstable during the initial
experiences.  He did not want to listen to what was happening nor did he
want to share in a spiritual quest.  We have two children and are committed
to providing them with a stable and nourishing environment.  Not being able
to share the many levels of living with him has left me feeling very alone
throughout these last six years (even though I have a rich inner life).

I wonder what, if anything I could have done in the beginning that would
have eased him into accepting Kundalini.

Jean

Date: Thu, 20 Jun 1996 11:20:37 +0200 (MET DST)
From: Carlo Izzo 


	I can tell you how I lived through this. In the first few years of
	our marriage, Zana was very mystically oriented, and I was extremely
	"matter of fact". Well, this is not entirely true: I always had a
	feel that "there is something more, something higher". I was (and
	I am) just happy with this "knowledge" that there is "something", even
	if I didn't know what was this "something". At that time, my wife
	was reading a lot of what - in my opinion - were very silly and
	shallow books. Something like "The secret of life in 20 lessons",
	with the picture of the author on the back cover displaying a very
	inspired expression, or some artificial self-reliance. I told her
	that there is something better to read. I suggested her to "go to
	the original sources", and I bought her Lao Tze, Chuang-tzu, and
	other Zen stuff (old masters). She found them fantastic, and she
	abandoned her previous readings. We were always discussing, and we
	were able to agree on the most basic things. In any case I refused
	too much mysticism, and we sometimes had arguments lasting days.
	I was pulling in one direction, and she was pulling in the other,
	but we never lost touch. We knews that it made sense to discuss.
	She even convinced me to practice some meditation - but after a
	short time I refused it because for me was pure nonsense. She kept
	reading dozens of books, of good quality, and she kept meditating.
	She kept me informed about her progress, and I saw her awakeing
	happening in real time, day after day. I was impressed. She was
	looking to me more and more calm and relaxed, till she came to me
	overexcited, describing her kundalini awakening (she didn't know
	anything about kundalini). I trusted her immediately: I knew she
	was not pretendig (she NEVER pretends: she is the most open and
	honest person I have ever met). I was extremely impressed, astonished
	I would say. Almost scared.

> My own husband had fears that I was mentally unstable during the initial
> experiences.

	I was doubting she was mentally unstable too, sometimes.
	Her hard-headedness about meditation, Hinduism, Buddhism, Taoism
	etcetera worried me. I felt *happy* when some of our Chinese, Indian
	or Japanese friends were telling her that these are religions
	as any other religion - with nothing specially different in them.
	In fact, she got quickly convinced about it. I suggested her to
	read the Bible and the New Testament, in order to become aware that
	"wisdom" is not limited to the Far East, but is also part of our
	own culture. She always refused to read them, by the way: she
	was not convinced. Or she found it useless.

> He did not want to listen to what was happening nor did he
> want to share in a spiritual quest.  We have two children and are committed
> to providing them with a stable and nourishing environment.  Not being able
> to share the many levels of living with him has left me feeling very alone
> throughout these last six years (even though I have a rich inner life).

	No, even if I often disagreed with Zana, I never lost touch with
	her: I was always listening carefully to what she said, and I
	tried with all my might to understand her. Sometimes I failed,
	sometimes I succeeded. And, in a way, I was *really* interested.
>
> I wonder what, if anything I could have done in the beginning that would
> have eased him into accepting Kundalini.
>
	This is so difficult to accept, Jean: it sounds too much like
	"magic", a sort of silly "new age" thing. It is difficult for
	people who didn't experience it to accept it as a real thing,
	and not as a hoax, or a mental illness. You can just try to explain,
	and hope that your partner would understand.

	Ciao,   Carlo

Date: Thu, 20 Jun 1996 06:52:58 -0700
From: Melissa 

Jean,

Have you shown your husband this list?  There are a lot of people on it,
myself included, that have thought THEMSELVES that they were going
crazy--none-the-less others around them.  Maybe this list would help him
understand--suerly, we can't ALL be crazy; undergoing the same or similar
experiences and from all over America and the world.  Do you think this
will help?  Try it--it can't hurt, can it?  Let us know what happens.

Love, Melissa

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